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Friday, August 1, 2008
Lovelines
We have been dating for six years without hassle, until recently when a guy, who had been chasing her for seven months, secured a job for her. Before getting her the job, my fiancÈe did not agree to date him, according to what she tells me. But now that he has succeeded in getting her a job, he is frequently at my fiancÈe’s place which has never been the case, while she too is visiting him whenever she wish. This baffles me!
Sol
Well you have to take this maturely. Since she said there is nothing intimate between them, tell her what you want and what you don’t about her and the man in question. Since she is your fiancÈe you have the right to demand explanation for whatever you may not be satisfied with. To avoid trouble, she should stop the guy, because he has played his part by getting her a job. She has to stop the visits and tell the guy that she has a fiancÈ. But if she can do so, I think both of you need to re-plan your love world. Good luck!
I don’t have feelings for her
Lovelines
I just discovered that my girlfriend is five months pregnant. We have been dating for four years. She wants me to marry her but I have no feeling for her since we started going out to date. More so, I am attached to another lady that I really love. I am confused, because I have gone deep with this new lady.
Sering
It is better that you stop joking and playing around with your life. As a man, you must have bearing and know what you want from what you don’t. You are not wood nor a stone, but a man, so you have to remember that "white lies always introduce others of a darker complexion," as said by William Parley. What I mean is that since you did not quit because of your lack of feeling for her in the past years, why is it now that she is pregnant you remember your lack of feeling for her? So you have no genuine excuse. Do not be confused. Tell your parents and arrange for the marriage. Good luck!
He has another girlfriend
Lovelines
I learnt that my boyfriend is having another girlfriend near his house despite our being together for the past 2 years and 7 months.
Naffie
It is not a new thing! It is left for you to make your relation a romantic one, so that you will be able to get back what belongs to you. If you still love him take it cool. But if you can’t accept that tell him to choose between the two of you or else you will quit. If he still loves you he will choose to remain with you. Good luck!
We always quarrel
Lovelines
I have deep love for my girlfriend but we can’t do without quarrelling every one or two weeks. I left her on two occasions but she will always tell my friends that she loves me. Right now we have a problem. Again, she is asking my friends to talk to me. I am confused.
Bogy-boy
It is not my right to tell you to walk away from her, even if she is not giving you peace of mind. A relationship in which you quarrel every two weeks and on two occasions left each other and reconciled, means you are not compatible. So, nothing better will come out of it unless you want to continue on and off. However, it is better you let her know that you are not made for each other. Good luck!
How can she please my mum?
Lovelines
We are young lovers. In a 3-year relationship, we’ve never had any misunderstanding. My entire family wants her including my dad, who is very fond of her. But my mum does not want to set eyes on her, in spite of all her efforts to please her.
Jerry
If you really love her and want her for marriage, try as much as possible to ask your mum the reason behind the distaste for her. Also try to talk to your father to plead to your mother on your behalf together with your brothers and sisters. When she realises that everyone likes your friend, she may change her mind. Good luck!
He says we should break-up
Lovelines
We have being in love for 3-years before he travelled abroad last year. He one day called me and said "I want us to break-up our relationship." I went to his brother to complain but he told me the same thing. In fact he called out a lady that the brother (my boyfriend) wanted to marry, so that I could see her with my eyes. But my problem is I just can’t stop thinking about him although his mum once told me after he had just travelled, that I should leave her son alone because we are not meant for each other despite the fact that he has introduced me to the family when we earlier started dating.
Lolly
Meditation is not a means to an end. So try as much as possible to stop thinking about him because you can have him back. He has already made up his mind and the mother, with his siblings, have agreed with him. Put that behind you and the right guy will surely come to your life. Good luck!
I have a question
Lovelines
Do you think I can get a good caring lover that is ready to marry me? Because men outside nowadays want to remain single forever.
Santa
Lovelines
I am a single young man and a good Christian still unmarried
Richard
Santa and Richard, keep on reading Lovelines, your partners are on the way. Are you a serious Muslim man or Christian lady? You might be the right person for Santa and Richard. Interested? Ok, make the call. Good luck!
Mother chose the right wife for me
Lovelines
My mum has chosen a good wife for me. She is morally okay and perfect. She is the type of woman I want, yet I am not comfortable. What is the problem?
Waggeh
Really I cannot say why in particular you are not comfortable, because you did not say exactly what you are not comfortable with. Is it with the woman (your wife), your mother, the relationship, your standard of living, or with everything else? Try to expand on this for Lovelines to answer. Anyhow try to be happy, think positively and feel satisfied with yourself. Good luck!
He tells me about his ex
Lovelines
I am in a two-month-old relationship. But my boyfriend was in a 5-year relationship with a lady who is presently out of the country. He told me one day that he started dating me because he had a problem with the girl. But I really love him, I don’t want us to seperate.
Bridget
If you want to keep him for yourself, you stir and stump the relationship, and blow your own trumpet before him. Meaning that you should try as much as possible to do what he likes most. Do them with little romance, he will not turn away from you. Read more about Loveline’s past edition "How to make your relationship romantic." So develop relationship skills, this will make you champion over the ex. Good luck!
I don’t trust my wife
Lovelines
I have a wife whom I love so much but I do not trust her.
Jatta
If you love your wife you must trust her but if you don’t then something is going on. You might not be able to trust her 100% but 99.8% if you truly love her and know that she loves you too. A relationship without trust is nothing but mere eye service love. So try to trust her because trust is like a soul, it never returns once it is gone. Good luck!
I am dating two guys at a go
Lovelines
I am 18, dating two guys at the same time. One of them is very caring, lovely and calls me always. While the other guy’s behaviour is opposite to the first one, he does not call, neither cares about me. However, I love both of them, yet I do not know what to do or whom to stay with amongst the two.
Jennifer
Anyhow I will not say that you are young because you are an adult, but it is not good at your age to keep two guys at a time. So choose one amongst the two. To answer your question, it is a pity that we know who we love but we don’t know who loves us when it comes to dating. To know what you should do, try as much as possible to study the two prudently and know whom you really love because you can’t love the duo in everything equally. At the same time you should find out the reason behind the one that doesn’t care much about you. Probably he has no phone or he lacks some love attributes. Whichever way, learn more about their characters, occupations and families, this will enable you to make a choice. Good luck!
I have feeling for different girls
Lovelines
I always have a feeling for every girl, but now I met a girl that I am interested in. I talked to her about my feelings towards her. She told me that she has a boyfriend. I tried her for a second time but she answered angrily and said "this is my boyfriend I told you before, still you keep following me."
Derby
Well, this is a girl that already has a boyfriend that she would not like to betray. So leave her and look for another cool, disciplined and beautiful girl, that will love you and be honest with you, as she is to her boyfriend. If you continue following her, one day she might embarrass you or say ‘yes’ just to stop you. And if she does that, at the end you might regret it, because love is a feeling from the heart, we develop it for someone we are interested in gradually till we get attracted to the person. When this happened, it started growing in your mind. That’s why some people will say to their love ones that ‘my love for you is eternal that will never be thirsty…’ So browse somewhere else for a better lover that will love you with her heart and soul. Good luck! ,
We have been dating for six years without hassle, until recently when a guy, who had been chasing her for seven months, secured a job for her. Before getting her the job, my fiancÈe did not agree to date him, according to what she tells me. But now that he has succeeded in getting her a job, he is frequently at my fiancÈe’s place which has never been the case, while she too is visiting him whenever she wish. This baffles me!
Sol
Well you have to take this maturely. Since she said there is nothing intimate between them, tell her what you want and what you don’t about her and the man in question. Since she is your fiancÈe you have the right to demand explanation for whatever you may not be satisfied with. To avoid trouble, she should stop the guy, because he has played his part by getting her a job. She has to stop the visits and tell the guy that she has a fiancÈ. But if she can do so, I think both of you need to re-plan your love world. Good luck!
I don’t have feelings for her
Lovelines
I just discovered that my girlfriend is five months pregnant. We have been dating for four years. She wants me to marry her but I have no feeling for her since we started going out to date. More so, I am attached to another lady that I really love. I am confused, because I have gone deep with this new lady.
Sering
It is better that you stop joking and playing around with your life. As a man, you must have bearing and know what you want from what you don’t. You are not wood nor a stone, but a man, so you have to remember that "white lies always introduce others of a darker complexion," as said by William Parley. What I mean is that since you did not quit because of your lack of feeling for her in the past years, why is it now that she is pregnant you remember your lack of feeling for her? So you have no genuine excuse. Do not be confused. Tell your parents and arrange for the marriage. Good luck!
He has another girlfriend
Lovelines
I learnt that my boyfriend is having another girlfriend near his house despite our being together for the past 2 years and 7 months.
Naffie
It is not a new thing! It is left for you to make your relation a romantic one, so that you will be able to get back what belongs to you. If you still love him take it cool. But if you can’t accept that tell him to choose between the two of you or else you will quit. If he still loves you he will choose to remain with you. Good luck!
We always quarrel
Lovelines
I have deep love for my girlfriend but we can’t do without quarrelling every one or two weeks. I left her on two occasions but she will always tell my friends that she loves me. Right now we have a problem. Again, she is asking my friends to talk to me. I am confused.
Bogy-boy
It is not my right to tell you to walk away from her, even if she is not giving you peace of mind. A relationship in which you quarrel every two weeks and on two occasions left each other and reconciled, means you are not compatible. So, nothing better will come out of it unless you want to continue on and off. However, it is better you let her know that you are not made for each other. Good luck!
How can she please my mum?
Lovelines
We are young lovers. In a 3-year relationship, we’ve never had any misunderstanding. My entire family wants her including my dad, who is very fond of her. But my mum does not want to set eyes on her, in spite of all her efforts to please her.
Jerry
If you really love her and want her for marriage, try as much as possible to ask your mum the reason behind the distaste for her. Also try to talk to your father to plead to your mother on your behalf together with your brothers and sisters. When she realises that everyone likes your friend, she may change her mind. Good luck!
He says we should break-up
Lovelines
We have being in love for 3-years before he travelled abroad last year. He one day called me and said "I want us to break-up our relationship." I went to his brother to complain but he told me the same thing. In fact he called out a lady that the brother (my boyfriend) wanted to marry, so that I could see her with my eyes. But my problem is I just can’t stop thinking about him although his mum once told me after he had just travelled, that I should leave her son alone because we are not meant for each other despite the fact that he has introduced me to the family when we earlier started dating.
Lolly
Meditation is not a means to an end. So try as much as possible to stop thinking about him because you can have him back. He has already made up his mind and the mother, with his siblings, have agreed with him. Put that behind you and the right guy will surely come to your life. Good luck!
I have a question
Lovelines
Do you think I can get a good caring lover that is ready to marry me? Because men outside nowadays want to remain single forever.
Santa
Lovelines
I am a single young man and a good Christian still unmarried
Richard
Santa and Richard, keep on reading Lovelines, your partners are on the way. Are you a serious Muslim man or Christian lady? You might be the right person for Santa and Richard. Interested? Ok, make the call. Good luck!
Mother chose the right wife for me
Lovelines
My mum has chosen a good wife for me. She is morally okay and perfect. She is the type of woman I want, yet I am not comfortable. What is the problem?
Waggeh
Really I cannot say why in particular you are not comfortable, because you did not say exactly what you are not comfortable with. Is it with the woman (your wife), your mother, the relationship, your standard of living, or with everything else? Try to expand on this for Lovelines to answer. Anyhow try to be happy, think positively and feel satisfied with yourself. Good luck!
He tells me about his ex
Lovelines
I am in a two-month-old relationship. But my boyfriend was in a 5-year relationship with a lady who is presently out of the country. He told me one day that he started dating me because he had a problem with the girl. But I really love him, I don’t want us to seperate.
Bridget
If you want to keep him for yourself, you stir and stump the relationship, and blow your own trumpet before him. Meaning that you should try as much as possible to do what he likes most. Do them with little romance, he will not turn away from you. Read more about Loveline’s past edition "How to make your relationship romantic." So develop relationship skills, this will make you champion over the ex. Good luck!
I don’t trust my wife
Lovelines
I have a wife whom I love so much but I do not trust her.
Jatta
If you love your wife you must trust her but if you don’t then something is going on. You might not be able to trust her 100% but 99.8% if you truly love her and know that she loves you too. A relationship without trust is nothing but mere eye service love. So try to trust her because trust is like a soul, it never returns once it is gone. Good luck!
I am dating two guys at a go
Lovelines
I am 18, dating two guys at the same time. One of them is very caring, lovely and calls me always. While the other guy’s behaviour is opposite to the first one, he does not call, neither cares about me. However, I love both of them, yet I do not know what to do or whom to stay with amongst the two.
Jennifer
Anyhow I will not say that you are young because you are an adult, but it is not good at your age to keep two guys at a time. So choose one amongst the two. To answer your question, it is a pity that we know who we love but we don’t know who loves us when it comes to dating. To know what you should do, try as much as possible to study the two prudently and know whom you really love because you can’t love the duo in everything equally. At the same time you should find out the reason behind the one that doesn’t care much about you. Probably he has no phone or he lacks some love attributes. Whichever way, learn more about their characters, occupations and families, this will enable you to make a choice. Good luck!
I have feeling for different girls
Lovelines
I always have a feeling for every girl, but now I met a girl that I am interested in. I talked to her about my feelings towards her. She told me that she has a boyfriend. I tried her for a second time but she answered angrily and said "this is my boyfriend I told you before, still you keep following me."
Derby
Well, this is a girl that already has a boyfriend that she would not like to betray. So leave her and look for another cool, disciplined and beautiful girl, that will love you and be honest with you, as she is to her boyfriend. If you continue following her, one day she might embarrass you or say ‘yes’ just to stop you. And if she does that, at the end you might regret it, because love is a feeling from the heart, we develop it for someone we are interested in gradually till we get attracted to the person. When this happened, it started growing in your mind. That’s why some people will say to their love ones that ‘my love for you is eternal that will never be thirsty…’ So browse somewhere else for a better lover that will love you with her heart and soul. Good luck! ,
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