Back and Next - Back and NextHow to know if a man or woman loves you (ii)
Thursday, January 29, 2009
In continuation of last week’s edition on ‘how to know if a man or woman loves you, in which I just browsed on personality, we now get into details of the topic proper.
Personality in this context, as I said in the last edition is a person’s trait, character and sensitive reponse to love. A person can be sedated, robust, quiet or shy, in showing their romantic feelings. I also said ‘communication is always the key! It isn't the quantity of time in which you see your partner, but the quality of time you spend them.
However, to know if a man or woman loves you, there is need for you to understand the various flirt signals men and women display to show their interest in the person they are flirting with. Some find it very difficult to read this. That the reactions are more than just ordinary friendship.
Some people are confident and bold to clearly display signs of love towards the person they are attracted to (flirt with) whilst others are hideous in their flirting. In that case it becomes difficult to tell if there is flirting going on between these two, and also difficult for you if you fall a victim. Should you want to know if a man or woman is showing you different types of love signals, let me add three more important things to what you have discovered in our last edition.
First, body language is one of the most obvious of all the flirt signals. It is a great giveaway for those that understand.People in love would clamp their hands together as they speak, out of nervousness. This will go on throughout the conversation. Another sign is that the person tries to lean towards you slowly but surely as they talk or walk with you…
Second thing is that when man or woman speaks to the person they are interested in some will become so nervous that they tend to stutter. They do this unconsciously when they are in the company of a beautiful woman or handsome man they adore and it becomes difficult for them to get the words out correctly.
One of the sneakiest of the flirt signals which is the third one is when the man or woman loves to be alone with the one they interested in so that they can spend quality time with each other. Such man or woman will always look for private moments for themselves. They will grab every opportunity they can. That way they can gradually become more intimate; comfortable and relaxed when they are together.
Men as well women have strange special ways of flirting with their opposite sex. So follow the steps above to note when a man or woman is showing you flirt signals. Try to be aware of when he or she is spending a lot of time with you when you are on your own, when his or her body language leans towards you. Also when the person sometimes stutter out of nervousness because of being with you.
These entire flirt signals wil show you that such person adores you and wants more than just a friendship with you. So try as much as possible to spot the flirtings that guy or gal shows you and know if he or she is interested in you. To know more about the body languages read them from Lovelines past editions.
She denies me her pregnancy
Lovelines
I am 26. I once dated a 23-year-old lady for five years. This lady denied my ownership of her pregnancy During the period of these 5 years she loved me wonderfully down to her heart. When rumour hit the town that she was pregnant, she quickly travelled to Dakar where she delivered the baby.
My greatest surprise is that she never accepted that she was pregnant or being pregnant for me. As un-aborted pregnancy cannot be hidden forever, when she delivered the child, she said I was not the father! She later came to apologise in order for us to continue the relationship. But when I asked for my child she said unless we continue our relationship before we can talk about the child. I still love her but I am in fear. So what can I do?
Abdou-Salam
**********
Well this is somehow logical but a simple love equation. Taken into consideration that she has denied that you are not responsible for her pregnancy, it means when she was dating you without doubt, she was seeing another man or men as well. Also, she might have a husband or someone else she truly loves in Dakar to whom she went to give the pregnancy.
This is called ‘acquired and merger’ in relationship term. In a nutshell, love is unconditional. So far she has given you a condition to obey before she can discuss about the child with you, it is better you get ready to go for DNA test in order to prove the biological father of the child.
Sincerely, my candid opinion is that you report her at the Child Welfare Unit at the Police Headquarters, Banjul. Doing this you will have access to the child to do DNA test. Moreover, if I were you I will not succumb to this type of woman that I would not be able to trust in future. However, there might be more hidden things behind the issue, which is not clear to you. Good luck!
Tribes palaver
Lovelines
I am 27, a working class young man. I have been dating a girl (whom I wish to marry) for the past 6 years. Unfortunately her father says no to our marriage because we are of different tribes (withheld). What can I do?
Adams
**********
The option left is love between you and your lady. If you both love each other and you know that you are capable of taking care of her, you should talk to her mother and other relatives to beg the father. Nowadays there are no more barriers in intermarriage.
Although about two tribes or so are still bent on and dictate the tribe their children should marry to. With dialogue you can still make it so far as she loves you. Talk with her and come out with unison decision. But if she is in doubt, call it bye and look elsewhere. Good luck!
No credit to call
Lovelines
I have a gal. I love her and she loves me too. I often call her but she has never called me. If I ask why she did not call or send me a text, her answer is ‘no credit to call.’ Can I trust her?
Nousa
**********
This is not a matter of trust but choice. Since she said there is “no credit to call” why don’t you buy credit for her about two times if you want her to call you? Doing this you will know if she is telling the truth or not. Besides, partners not calling each other does not mean there is no love.
However, dating is an investment but it all depends on how you invest on it. I am not saying that you should turn to her scratch card supplier. But test her with one or two scratch cards then you will be able to understand where I am going. If you still don’t understand what I mean make a call to Lovelines. Good luck!
He does not know
Lovelines
I am a girl of 21 and am in love with a man who does not even know that I love him. I always see him; he is a good person I would really love to have him as a husband.
‘Nabou
**********
You have the ball in your court. If you admire or find a man attractive to you, go for him. There is nothing bad in inviting a man you love for a chat at your age. If he understands during your chat he will hit the nail on the head for you as desired. But if he still doesn’t understand tell him logically.
Either man or woman, anyone can make the first move. Remember the story of the Holy Prophet and His wife. Well, if you can’t still get it right call Lovelines for more information and guidelines. Good luck!
She says ‘is over’
Lovelines
It was over between my ex and me for a long time, but we remain good friends. I have another girlfriend after some months of loneliness. Few days ago I was with my girlfriend while my ex called me to say hi.
When I talked to her my girlfriend said, “is over between us.” I was angry and I said “okay hence you have said let me go to the old girl.” I left but I definitely love her.
Abruzzi
**********
Well, as a lover, both of you should not be angry at the same time. It does not mean that she really wants you to go if she does love you for real. She only said it out of annoyance and jealousy. It is left for you to go back to her as a gentle and mature man, explain to her that there is nothing special between two of you anymore than friendship.
Let her understand that end of love relation is not end of friendship. Women need pet, go and pet her. But after pet or chat and she is still adamant, it might then be possible that she wants an end to the relation. But remember anger does not solve problems, it rather escalates it. Good luck!
Reconciliation
Lovelines
There was a lady I once dated for 3 years. We separated because of her mother. I have someone that I have promised to marry soon. Now this girl starts calling and talking to me about reconciliation.
Sanneh
**********
Since you have promised someone else it is not advisable to break your promise hence there is no problem between two of you. If you break your promise now, it means you jilt someone that loves you. So don’t attempt to break somebody’s heart. Tell your oldie to look for someone else because you have already given your words to the person you wish to marry. Be bold enough and be a man of yourself if not you might end up in vain. Good luck!
I have two girlfriends
Lovelines
I have two girlfriends but they never allow me to carry out my intention with them anytime I ask for it from them. They always refuse. What can I do?
Kaleh
**********
You need to listen to yourself. It means what you only want from them is just the taste of their flesh. There is nothing like love. They cannot allow you because they know that you only want to use and dump them.
Learn how to love first before you think of how to make love. However, since they do not allow you to play the game with them, it means they are ladies of integrity. So follow what Almighty Allah has said in the Holy Quran in surat Nisai and look for someone like you. Good luck!
Nyima
It is a nice feeling when you know that someone loves you, someone misses you, and someone needs you. So it always feel much better when you know that someone never ever forgets you.
MP
F Ceesay
You are the F of my dreams, and my happiness. The more I think about you, the better I feel safe and relax. As I am thinking about you, your voice echoed in my mind something about life, career, and about many things we are going to share together.
P Susso
Fatou
There maybe no moon tonight, but if you look up to the sky, there is a very bright star sparkling. There is a secret to this beautiful star because on it are written 5 letters, F. A. T. O. U. I can see them very clearly with my heart you are that star sweetheart.
Ebrima
NB:
Send a romantic love message to your partner via Lovelines Romantic Corner.
For contribution and more information call/text 7790689, 6560592 or email: yunus2kay@yahoo.com
Personality in this context, as I said in the last edition is a person’s trait, character and sensitive reponse to love. A person can be sedated, robust, quiet or shy, in showing their romantic feelings. I also said ‘communication is always the key! It isn't the quantity of time in which you see your partner, but the quality of time you spend them.
However, to know if a man or woman loves you, there is need for you to understand the various flirt signals men and women display to show their interest in the person they are flirting with. Some find it very difficult to read this. That the reactions are more than just ordinary friendship.
Some people are confident and bold to clearly display signs of love towards the person they are attracted to (flirt with) whilst others are hideous in their flirting. In that case it becomes difficult to tell if there is flirting going on between these two, and also difficult for you if you fall a victim. Should you want to know if a man or woman is showing you different types of love signals, let me add three more important things to what you have discovered in our last edition.
First, body language is one of the most obvious of all the flirt signals. It is a great giveaway for those that understand.People in love would clamp their hands together as they speak, out of nervousness. This will go on throughout the conversation. Another sign is that the person tries to lean towards you slowly but surely as they talk or walk with you…
Second thing is that when man or woman speaks to the person they are interested in some will become so nervous that they tend to stutter. They do this unconsciously when they are in the company of a beautiful woman or handsome man they adore and it becomes difficult for them to get the words out correctly.
One of the sneakiest of the flirt signals which is the third one is when the man or woman loves to be alone with the one they interested in so that they can spend quality time with each other. Such man or woman will always look for private moments for themselves. They will grab every opportunity they can. That way they can gradually become more intimate; comfortable and relaxed when they are together.
Men as well women have strange special ways of flirting with their opposite sex. So follow the steps above to note when a man or woman is showing you flirt signals. Try to be aware of when he or she is spending a lot of time with you when you are on your own, when his or her body language leans towards you. Also when the person sometimes stutter out of nervousness because of being with you.
These entire flirt signals wil show you that such person adores you and wants more than just a friendship with you. So try as much as possible to spot the flirtings that guy or gal shows you and know if he or she is interested in you. To know more about the body languages read them from Lovelines past editions.
Agony corner
She denies me her pregnancy
Lovelines
I am 26. I once dated a 23-year-old lady for five years. This lady denied my ownership of her pregnancy During the period of these 5 years she loved me wonderfully down to her heart. When rumour hit the town that she was pregnant, she quickly travelled to Dakar where she delivered the baby.
My greatest surprise is that she never accepted that she was pregnant or being pregnant for me. As un-aborted pregnancy cannot be hidden forever, when she delivered the child, she said I was not the father! She later came to apologise in order for us to continue the relationship. But when I asked for my child she said unless we continue our relationship before we can talk about the child. I still love her but I am in fear. So what can I do?
Abdou-Salam
**********
Well this is somehow logical but a simple love equation. Taken into consideration that she has denied that you are not responsible for her pregnancy, it means when she was dating you without doubt, she was seeing another man or men as well. Also, she might have a husband or someone else she truly loves in Dakar to whom she went to give the pregnancy.
This is called ‘acquired and merger’ in relationship term. In a nutshell, love is unconditional. So far she has given you a condition to obey before she can discuss about the child with you, it is better you get ready to go for DNA test in order to prove the biological father of the child.
Sincerely, my candid opinion is that you report her at the Child Welfare Unit at the Police Headquarters, Banjul. Doing this you will have access to the child to do DNA test. Moreover, if I were you I will not succumb to this type of woman that I would not be able to trust in future. However, there might be more hidden things behind the issue, which is not clear to you. Good luck!
Tribes palaver
Lovelines
I am 27, a working class young man. I have been dating a girl (whom I wish to marry) for the past 6 years. Unfortunately her father says no to our marriage because we are of different tribes (withheld). What can I do?
Adams
**********
The option left is love between you and your lady. If you both love each other and you know that you are capable of taking care of her, you should talk to her mother and other relatives to beg the father. Nowadays there are no more barriers in intermarriage.
Although about two tribes or so are still bent on and dictate the tribe their children should marry to. With dialogue you can still make it so far as she loves you. Talk with her and come out with unison decision. But if she is in doubt, call it bye and look elsewhere. Good luck!
No credit to call
Lovelines
I have a gal. I love her and she loves me too. I often call her but she has never called me. If I ask why she did not call or send me a text, her answer is ‘no credit to call.’ Can I trust her?
Nousa
**********
This is not a matter of trust but choice. Since she said there is “no credit to call” why don’t you buy credit for her about two times if you want her to call you? Doing this you will know if she is telling the truth or not. Besides, partners not calling each other does not mean there is no love.
However, dating is an investment but it all depends on how you invest on it. I am not saying that you should turn to her scratch card supplier. But test her with one or two scratch cards then you will be able to understand where I am going. If you still don’t understand what I mean make a call to Lovelines. Good luck!
He does not know
Lovelines
I am a girl of 21 and am in love with a man who does not even know that I love him. I always see him; he is a good person I would really love to have him as a husband.
‘Nabou
**********
You have the ball in your court. If you admire or find a man attractive to you, go for him. There is nothing bad in inviting a man you love for a chat at your age. If he understands during your chat he will hit the nail on the head for you as desired. But if he still doesn’t understand tell him logically.
Either man or woman, anyone can make the first move. Remember the story of the Holy Prophet and His wife. Well, if you can’t still get it right call Lovelines for more information and guidelines. Good luck!
She says ‘is over’
Lovelines
It was over between my ex and me for a long time, but we remain good friends. I have another girlfriend after some months of loneliness. Few days ago I was with my girlfriend while my ex called me to say hi.
When I talked to her my girlfriend said, “is over between us.” I was angry and I said “okay hence you have said let me go to the old girl.” I left but I definitely love her.
Abruzzi
**********
Well, as a lover, both of you should not be angry at the same time. It does not mean that she really wants you to go if she does love you for real. She only said it out of annoyance and jealousy. It is left for you to go back to her as a gentle and mature man, explain to her that there is nothing special between two of you anymore than friendship.
Let her understand that end of love relation is not end of friendship. Women need pet, go and pet her. But after pet or chat and she is still adamant, it might then be possible that she wants an end to the relation. But remember anger does not solve problems, it rather escalates it. Good luck!
Reconciliation
Lovelines
There was a lady I once dated for 3 years. We separated because of her mother. I have someone that I have promised to marry soon. Now this girl starts calling and talking to me about reconciliation.
Sanneh
**********
Since you have promised someone else it is not advisable to break your promise hence there is no problem between two of you. If you break your promise now, it means you jilt someone that loves you. So don’t attempt to break somebody’s heart. Tell your oldie to look for someone else because you have already given your words to the person you wish to marry. Be bold enough and be a man of yourself if not you might end up in vain. Good luck!
I have two girlfriends
Lovelines
I have two girlfriends but they never allow me to carry out my intention with them anytime I ask for it from them. They always refuse. What can I do?
Kaleh
**********
You need to listen to yourself. It means what you only want from them is just the taste of their flesh. There is nothing like love. They cannot allow you because they know that you only want to use and dump them.
Learn how to love first before you think of how to make love. However, since they do not allow you to play the game with them, it means they are ladies of integrity. So follow what Almighty Allah has said in the Holy Quran in surat Nisai and look for someone like you. Good luck!
Romantic texts
Nyima
It is a nice feeling when you know that someone loves you, someone misses you, and someone needs you. So it always feel much better when you know that someone never ever forgets you.
MP
F Ceesay
You are the F of my dreams, and my happiness. The more I think about you, the better I feel safe and relax. As I am thinking about you, your voice echoed in my mind something about life, career, and about many things we are going to share together.
P Susso
Fatou
There maybe no moon tonight, but if you look up to the sky, there is a very bright star sparkling. There is a secret to this beautiful star because on it are written 5 letters, F. A. T. O. U. I can see them very clearly with my heart you are that star sweetheart.
Ebrima
NB:
Send a romantic love message to your partner via Lovelines Romantic Corner.
For contribution and more information call/text 7790689, 6560592 or email: yunus2kay@yahoo.com
Author: By Yunus Salieu
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