Agony corner

Lovelines
I am 25 dating a 30-year-old man. Each time I ask about his parents or any member of his family, he turns it to a fight. We are not new lovers, we have been going out for the past 2 years without my knowing any of his relatives.

What can  I do?
Semirah

I think you should learn how to read writings on the wall. If he really loves you he will definitely let you know his family. The same thing if he’s having problem with his family he will let you know for the sake of love. His  refusal to let you know his parents might be because he does not  want to commit himself to the relationship or maybe there is a ‘skeleton in the copboard’ regarding his family that he hides from you. Ask him and yourself where the relationship is heading.

Well, if it is just dating and for fun, forget about knowing his family and enjoy yourself. But if it would be a long term relationship (marriage), you have to know everything about him and his family like wise him. But I think it is better you quickly wake up and rise up to the challenge. Let him know that if he doesn’t show you his family you will terminate the relationship.
Good luck!  


Lovelines
I am living in the same compound with my grandma with other relatives but in different apartments. One of my relatives’ daughter always comes to borrow novels from me to read. This girl is a grade 6 student. Her mother is not very comfortable with her daughter’s relationship with me.

She is probably thinking that maybe there is something going underneath. Honestly, I see this girl as a sister. What can I do? Should I avoid this girl totally or should I explain the situation to her mother to clear her doubts?  
Badou

Since you are sure that there is nothing between you and the girl, it is better you stop her from entering your room. Each time she wants anything from you let her meet you and ask for it outside, where everybody will see you. Avoid being alone with her in a corner, room or parlor and do not escort or allow her to escort you anywhere. Just try to avoid her in a mature way.

There is no need to explain anything to the mother because the girl is young. If you explain to her mother, from that moment on the girl will start thinking about her maturity and having a boyfriend. This may encourage her to indulge in illicit affairs as well. Do not be angry with the mother over this issue, she may be worried if her daughter is showing waywardness and also because of the rapport between you. So be careful, a girl in grade 6 must be  a little girl. Good luck!


Lovelines
It is 6 months now that I have been going out with my lovely girlfriend. One day my father sent me to the village. I went without telling her. She called to know my whereabout and I explained everything to her. She understood my situation. Afterwards, I spent a long time in the village. In spite the fact that she called me both day and night to know how Iwas doing and when I was to come back, I did not let her know my plans anymore. When she knew about my arrival she said I do not love her. But God knows that I still love her with all my heart. How can I get her back  into my  arms?
Bassy

It is very unfortunate that you are not being fair to her. In  any circumstance you should have told her especially when you claim to love her and knew that your   journey would take you more than a night. The journey to your village was not secret, when you were coming back you should have told her to clear her doubt and appreciate her concern for you. Your behavior clearly manifests your feelings for her.

I do not blame her because she is able to read the writing on the wall. You can try to visit her and beg her for forgiveness and make her realize that the journey was prompt and it was not your intention to behave in such a way. But if she’s the type of girl who is principled she may not consider your plea but  just try your luck. Good luck!


Lovelines
I am worried and don’t know what to do. I am 21 years old, dating a guy who really loves me and even proposed marriage to me. This guy has traveled abroad. He used to call me regularly. But in the past two years he hardly called me. I love him so much.
Mariama

Well love across the ocean is not easy.  Since you are no more hearing from him  for about 2 years, it is enough for you to know that the relationship is sour. Better still find out about him from his family members whether you will be able to get some useful information that can give you hope. But I doubt if the man still wishes to marry you. That does not mean that he has forgen what you have shared together, but I want you to know that his mindset  has changed. You can call me for more information about what I mean if you don’t get this clearly. Good luck!

 
Lovelines
I am a girl of 20, dating a man of 28. This man is married and is also a family friend of mine. We are dating but we have not told anybody about it, because my parents will not be happy with me. However, I love this man so much and I don’t want to lose him. Please tell me what to do.
Rachida

What is forbidden is what you are doing: not allowing anybody to know about it. If you allow people to know about it, it is no longer a forbidden thing. So I will advise you to let your parents know about your secret love.  If anything ‘bad happens’ between you, think of the repercusions of that. Has it ever occurred to you that he can impregnate you and deny it because he is a family friend.

Most secret relationships turn to disgrace and become bitter experiences especially this type. This is because your boyfriend is cheating on his wife and your family who has trusted him. You are not honest to your parents as well as being an intruder in another woman’s marriage. If you are indeed in love, try to formalize your relation with him or you withdraw from it before your secret is revealed to your parents and his wife.
 So quickly make a choice, you are still too toung to fool around with a married man. Be wise. Good luck!


Lovelines
I am in love with two girls and I don’t know which one of them to marry because they both love me more than I can imagine.
Badara

I do not know who you should marry you did not explain anything about them. But what I know is that your love  for the two is not the same. So I will advise you to marry the one you love more since they both love you. However, I know your inability to choose one among the two will make you lose them or choose the wrong one. This is one of the reasons to keep to one partner at a time. So think and think deep when making your choice. Finally, follow your heart when you are ready to make your choice. Good luck!


Lovelines
I met someone on the internet and we  started a friendship by sending e-mails and pictures to each other. We discussed at length many things about our families, friends, nationalities, and histories among other things. We did not hide anything from each other. I felt in love with her so deeply. She said she would come to visit me here in The Gambia so that we can know ourselves more. Now for the past one month she stopped responding to my mail. What can I do because I don’t know if she loves me like I love her?
Omalick

Internet love is just for some time. It is what is  called ‘lucky for the winner.’ At the same time it is a try-your-luck game due to the fact that as you are sending her mail someone is somewhere else doing the same thing. Probably where you stopped pleasing her might be where another person started. What I will advise you to do is to continue trying your luck with another and send her more mails to explain how deeply you have fallen in love with her. Ask why has she not been replying to your mails. If you have offended her do not hesitate to apologize. If she still does not reply after few more mails then continue your browsing, probably that’s how God wants it. However, internet love is by chance. Good luck!


Lovelines
I was dating a man but after 6 years of our relationship we broke up. We are now back together with full love. I really love and trust him but I am afraid he hasn’t got the same feelings towards me. This is due to the fact that I once had a similar experience where the man after proposing to me, changed his mind.
Jessica

You havent mentioned the man’s age and yours, your occupation and what  caused the break up in the first instance, and how you reconciled; how many years or months it took you to reconcile and whom you first knew between him and the latter man, discussion with him. Since you did not trust him because you are afraid, definitely there must be something missing. Summon courage and ask him his intention in this relationship. If you are not satisfied with his reply or doubt his reply, better check out for someone else. Good luck!



Lovelines

Amy C
Love is river that I wish to swim with you, so all that I need is a piece of your heart to serve as a life jacket to prevent me from drowning.
Modou

Lamin N
One plus one equals two eyes looking at you, four plus one equals five senses missing you, twelve plus twelve equals  twenty-four hours thinking about you, three plus four equals seven days in a week sharing and caring with you, one plus eleven equals twelve months loving you deep in my heart.
O Njie

Eve
I love you and I have admitted my love for you. Tell me how should I live without you my dear, I left the world to live in your heart, I love you more than you can imagine. It is impossible for me to forget you, I will bear all the pain love can cause to secure our relationship in life.
Oumarou

Gibou
You must be a thief because you stole my heart. You must be tired because you are always running through my mind. And maybe I am a bad shooter because I keep missing you. My heart is for you with lot of love and kisses.
Yamzy

Paul
Since love grows within you, so beauty grows for love is the beauty of the soul.
Anna Marie

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