Actions speak louder than words

When a woman wants to develop a relationship with a man, she may not tell him "I want you, I love you" but rather will send out body signals.

A woman will tend to use her eyes a lot to signal interest. Frequent glances towards the fancied man should be interpreted as crucial sign of interest. The woman interested in the man will continue to steal glances at the man with emergency defence mechanism. Should he look her way, she will not fix her eyes on him but will instead look down or the other way or even give an impression of shyness.

Take note as a man, once contact is established, a woman will then put up reinforcers to encourage the man to talk. Reinforcers such as smiling and agreeing with the man are all signs of indicating to the man that she may be available as well. These signs encourage the man to feel welcome, attractive and to relax.

What about man?
The open posture that signals availability in a man is when he stands with his feet apart, lean his back onto a wall and puts one hand on the belt or pocket of his trouser. Availability will then turn into desire and this will be no-verbal behaviour of touch.

The man will begin by trying to check out if it’s possible by touching her flirtingly on the arm or shoulder before moving in closer, and then maintaining contact in a more prolonged way. Watch out if you are experiencing any of the actions. Well, may the spirit of love guide you till next week!

Agony corner

Too fat?

Lovelines
My friend laughs at me and says I am too fat. What can I do?
Bombeh

Fatness is not a crime. If your friends are laughing at you because you are fat, why don’t you too laugh at them because they are slim. It is a gift from God since you did not create yourself. The only thing you can do is to watch what you eat. Avoid food that contain too much calories. Reduce your intake of junk food.

Try as much as possible to do some exercises every morning and possibly before you go to bed. Note one thing, there are some men out there dying for your appearance, believe me. So you do not need to feel unhappy about this, always turn it to joke. Good luck!

I am a petty trader
Lovelines
I am a common petty trader in the market. For the past 9 years I have been dating a girl. We promised to get married in future. We disclosed this to our parents. My parents welcomed our decision. Her parents said I don’t have money and I am not a semester. Due to this, they said I can’t marry their daughter because there is already a semester coming to marry her this month (March).

However, this girl is forcing me to impregnate her to avoid her getting married to the semester. She wants me to do this by all means. During her last visit to my house, she soaked her cloths in water just to lure me to bed but I resisted. She said since I refused to impregnate her she will get herself impregnated by another man and she will tell everyone that I am the one who is responsible for it! Is this a threat?
Soriba

It is not a threat, she is only telling you how desperate she is. But what have you been doing for the past 9 years that kept you from marrying her if you love each other. I do not think you are ready to marry her yet, if you did you would have taken the matter more seriously than this. It is just a few days to your fiancée’s wedding and you just started looking for how you can get her.

There is nothing you can do to get her now than to really talk to her parents to have a change of mind. However, the girl has tried enough but it is you who is not trying. I admired you for not touching the lady or taking any advantage of her. If you do not mind, you can call me for a chat. Good luck!

She introduced me to him
Lovelines
My best friend introduced me to a man she’s dating. I was surprised, the man came to me and said he loves me and wants us to become lovers. I do not know if I should tell my friend or not because she is madly in love with the guy. I don’t want to spoil their relationship. This is getting out of my hand, I need help.
Halimatou

Your message really shows that you are a reliable and trustworthy friend. Keep away from this man, he is evil. Don’t visit or allow him to visit you. Don’t call him and always ignore his calls. If you believe that the girl is really your best friend and will believe you, tell her about the man’s proposal of love to you. Some men only pretend to love but what they are saying is nothing but illusion. Theirs is infatuation, not true love. So stay away from the man. Good luck!

Mother’s choice
Lovelines
My mother wants me to marry a girl of her choice. This girl she wants me to marry is in love with someone else. The girl said she neither likes nor hates me but has promised herself to someone else. She is also not my type of girl.
Samba

I will advise you to take your time when it comes to marriage. Do not marry someone you do not love and who does not love you as well. Tell your mother what she has told you and let your mother know that she is not the type of lady you want to marry. Explain it to her with respect and your points should be made clear to her. Good luck!

I don’t want to fall into a trap

Lovelines
Guys always love me but I am not interested in anyone of them. Some of these guys running after me can kill themselves because of me. Among them there are two of them that have loved me since I was a kid. I have had heartbreak before and I don’t want to fall into the trap anymore. Now there are some guys that want to marry me but I am still a kid.
Adama

I will talk to you like my sister. You are too young, at the age of 16, to be talking about boyfriends and not just a boyfriend. It is very difficult for me to hear you saying something about heartbreaks. At your age, you should think about your future and career not about dating. Ward off boys or men. This will allow you to think and have plans for yourself. Good luck!

He wants to date me

Lovelines
I have been alone for 2 years since I broke up with my boyfriend. Now his friend is following me. I am confused, I don’t know what to do.  
Percy-Baby

Why don’t you ask him what has made him to think he is the right person for you when he cannot broker peace between you and your ex-boyfriend. Tell him to disappear while you look elsewhere for a good lover who has no association with your ex.

If you accept him, it is not a problem but you will become their laughingstock. As soon as he gets what he wants from you, he will dump you like an old and unprofitable item. So if you are not ready for a heartbreak, tell him to look elsewhere. Good luck!

My boyfriend is about to wed

Lovelines
The boy I love so much is about to wed another lady. We really love each other. What should I do?
Marie

There is nothing you can do my sister than to pray for them and take heart. Almighty Allah did not destine the two of you to be husband and wife. More so, if he loves you as deeply as you mentioned, no matter what the circumstances, he will never leave you for another person. Good luck!

I am in doubt

Lovelines
There is a man I am dating. I really love him and can’t stop thinking about him. But I am not sure if he truly loves me as I do. How can I prove his love for me?
Kitty

I will advise you to read some past issues of Lovelines in which you will find the answer to this. Better still you can give me a call for comprehensive hints.

Romantic texts

Armstrong
I have deposited prayers, joy prosperity, peace, laughter and all blessings in your love account. Use without limit, the pin code is sweet heart.
Selimatou

Yousupha
God is so wise that He never created friends with price tags, because if He did I could not afford a precious friend like you.
Kazy

Khadijatou
I love how you studied me and know me better than I know myself. With you, I am not merely safe; not just respected; but you make me feel so tall and proud. I'm everything I’m because you love me. You cultivate me. You are my princess charming and my knight in shining armour.
Abdou-Lateef

Rudolph
I would like to serve you a special lunch in the hotel of my heart with a bowl of love. So I have a spoon of care, in my happy arms. My heart is the dish of friendship. I want you to pay the bill by missing me.
Mercy

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